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Benefits & Advice
Here's what some of our couples and a few experts have to say about online dating...
Volume, volume, volume. Millions of singles are online. It helps broaden your net for potential partners. Especially if you live in a small town or city with limited dating opportunities. Or if you're new in town, and don't have a large network of friends or family to draw upon.
Be honest about who you are and what you're looking for, especially the kind of relationship you are seeking.
It really works. I am an advocate of online dating and I tell people all the time how I met my husband online. I have no reason to be embarrassed. It worked for me, and it can work for you too!
It's like shopping! There are so many men to choose from, and you get to decide with whom to talk.
Try it with a friend. It's fun to have someone to compare notes with.
Be cautious. Be smart. Here are some online dating safety tips to keep in mind.
There are online dating websites for just about anyone...be it a specific interest, culture or religion. For example, there is Jdate for Jewish singles, Catholic or Mormon Singles, and there is even a website for Military Singles, to name a few.
So, what are you waiting for?
Support for online dating from of a therapist...
In her book, Romancing the Web: A Therapist's Guide to the Finer Points of Online Dating, Diane Berry says: "When I suggest to my clients that they look to the computer to play cupid, many are incredulous. However, I have been working with clients for a number of years who have been intelligently and thoughtfully meeting and dating persons online for some time. It is a respectable and, if done correctly, a safe method of meeting like-minded singles in your area and can provide a much wider population of potential partners from which to choose. In short, the computer can greatly increase your chances of finding that fulfilling relationship we all seek" (3).
Two L.A. women met their husbands online and wrote a book about their experiences...
Anderson and Roberts, who wrote Find Your Mate Online: No Fear, No Embarrassment, Just Love, tell us there are some distinct advantages over online dating vs. face-to-face meetings:
- We can be less inhibited via email than in face-to-face situations, which means we may feel more comfortable sharing personal information.
- The writing involved with email allows us to take our time to gather our thoughts.
- Emails feel safer than phone calls or meeting face to face. Emails allow us time to get to know one another (127).
Author Rachel Greenwald explains why online dating is crucial after age 35...
In her book, Find a Husband After 35 (Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School: A Simple 15-Step Action Program Rachel Greenwald suggests online dating has many positive attributes, chief among them is that it offers high volume, it's fast, inexpensive, convenient, and it casts a wide net. "It's actually an old-fashioned way to meet people that has come full circle. Men and women use the written word to get to know each other" (116).
A fashion designer and former model, Gail Garrison gives this advice...
A good photo is essential for your online dating profile. Having spent years as a model, Gail Garrison knows the power of a great photo. In her book, Guide to Successful Online Dating, she says of your profile photo, "It doesn't have to be unrealistic or touched up, but make sure it accentuates your best features. Each of us have something special; maybe it is our eyes, our hair or we have a great smile...This is your chance to make a great first impression" (14).
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